Connecting the Dots to the Past

"Fast money," a sale man told me. The sale man has a younger brother and he is very smart. "He doesn't want to work. He doesn't want money from the proper way," He continued.

Proper way? I think that's quite a subjective perceptive. Something incontestable is that some people in old fashion still perceive money which got from random sources to be not proper. I didn't make a comment. The picture of my friend success had came into my mind. He is doing an "improper business" for years before he established himself a good company. I thought the claim by the sale man is subjective.

"I've seen quite a number of my friend having good trait but turn worst when they mismanage their lives," He said. "Though some of them from very poor family manage to strive into realm of success." While he trying to convey the message, I found this man interesting. He's actually looking back to his past. They are classmate started from the relative same starting point and ended with different point of life after years. He began to compare what he actually missed to become success like his classmate and what he gratitude that he doesn't get involve in certain way to become a bad person. I start to observe and I found this fact is fascinating. We can't actually see thing when we are young. The icon and success stories on paper is quite a fairy tales to us but when someone in our circle start to emerge as a successful person, it kicks into our mind. What've we done differently? One thing I see from my past is I thought of education is an absolute determiner and success is impartial to those loner, but my friend had proven me wrong. I start to build my communication, I speak more, flatter when I need to and I stress to every one around me that getting no good mark doesn't mean you are bad producer. 

One thing I do agree is ambitious people do often looking to do something out of sense. Looking for fast money is one of the trait, but it also mess up their life. I pretty sure i'd somehow mess up too my life by debts and overwhelm by job that I'm not supposedly able to handle at my age. I look at the guy and smiled, feeling like I'm somehow in the position of his brother. Though I might be little hard worker than him. 

It also taught me another important lesson, if the problem is chronic and important, working on the surface does't help to eradicate it. I'd spent most of my time trying to pull off the fire failing to recognise the source is still there. I think if the problem is there, why avoiding and worrying? Work on it.

It is important to have a kid waiting for you

Now i'm back to the blog again. One good thing of my blog is without ad. It isn't because I don't want some income from the advertiser but I don't know how to really put one.

Let's go back to the topic again. Why is important to have a kid waiting for you at home, in school or nursery. Now to some culture, one would seek more on individualism, means they want to have something to achieve before they got married or have child. In the common perception of the group, they perceive children or kids were burden to their progressive live. For example, they want to achieve something, a business startup, a superb athlete or a fame celebrity and etc.

But I'm trying to assure you that "kids", especially your child will make the entire belief the opposite way.

What makes me to say so? I don't have child and I'm yet to married but my job has giving me more opportunity to get in touch with kids with different age than most of the office workers.

The one essence of having kid is "they are the greatest motivation factor".

What was that? You might think that, ya right, it means struggle days by days to bring home pennies to get them fed. That is my life, my motivation.

No. What I'm trying to say is completely different.

What I'm telling you is, even if you get scolded in the office by your boss but when you get home, you are their hero. When you get to teach them, shows them new trick or stuff or maybe get something build, they will giving you the feeling that you are amazing. Indeed, you are amazing. It matters. Why? Thinking you are amazing should be subjective and not universal. You can be amazing in a small circle but not to the other. But who care. Living in that small circle makes you grow faster than the other. One of the good example that of thinking someone is amazing is a subjective perception is Android-ian think that Steve Job wasn't that amazing compare to the Google's humanity achievement.

When you see them growing up everyday from able to walk, holding a pencil, talk something that you don't expected, it gave you some goosebumps. They had really grow under your care! you will hold that on any stormy day will get into your way.

So, have your own baby and take good care!


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